What is love?
When I google this questions, the first thing I read is that “Love is an intense feeling of affection towards someone else.” As I grow older and think more about love I realise that love should be seen not just as a feeling but an enacted emotion. Don’t just say that you love someone, show them that you do. Therefore, to love is to feel and act lovingly. Love is giving, love is tolerance, love is learning.
When two people who understand themselves come together, they actually are able to enhance each other’s potential. See, we all want to feel love and we all want to be in love. But what we need to understand is that love is not about us. It is not about our selfish motives. As in the Bible it says “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.” Is not it beautiful? God is love and he tells us to love others as we love ourselves.
Relationships are not about compromises; they are actually about empowering the other person to achieve their goals. Helping them grow to become the individual they deserve to become. And therefore it’s not about our selfish motives, it is not about us.
That’s why we all need to find someone who makes us want to change our life and be our best. Someone that makes us question how we act and behave. Someone who makes us think about our widest possibilities and our greatest goals and dreams. Someone who inspires you.
When you say someone is made for you, it means you are saying you can learn from them. When you say you want someone forever, it means you want to learn tolerance.
This is a state of being, that has nothing to do, with something or someone outside yourself. This is the purest form of Love.
As Kabir, the Indian poet put it: “The lane of love is narrow; there is room for only one.”